On the Reason of Not Getting Married and Do


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Don’t get married because social structure pressures you to have one or you’ll be judged on being a spinster. Be brave to not give a fuck on people’s judgments, because no society will ever sponsor your wedding dream anyway.

Don’t get married because your mom thinks this is the right time. Nope. No such a thing as the right time, every time can be the right time when you decide it is.

Don’t get married because your friends and everyone else are getting married. You open the chance of making new friends and there are people who stay single forever and ever, amen. You are never alone.

Don’t get married because of the possibilities of having a fruitful and faithful marriage. Well, cheat, divorce and death will also be there at the same time.

Don’t get married because someone tells you that marriage will guarantee happiness. Like, is there such a thing? Though “you’re the one who’s responsible for your happiness” sounds cliché as hell, it is true.

Don’t get married because marriage is just another step in your life. No, the choices are many.

Don’t get married because of the idea that marriage equals to happily ever after. Nothing lasts forever.

Don’t get married due to the delusion and illusion that everything will get better with someone beside you, because life can also get worse with someone beside you.

Don’t get married because of all the romanticizing of love pop culture creates.

Heck, don’t even get married because there’s someone kneeling in front of you with a ring.

Go get married because you’re being honest to yourself that you need to get married. Because you want to spend the rest of your life with this person, but at the same time you also know that he/she’s not the only one who builds you happiness. Go pursue someone who’s not only the right person for you, but also for your long time plans and goals in life.

Get married due to the fact that it is a long time process of bonding, and no matter what will happen in the future both of you will be brave enough to solve it together. Not just sign up for the honeymoon and wedding champagne.

Get married because you’re ready for the adventure of fresh sweet smell of young skins as well as the uninteresting wrinkles of aging.

Get married in the realization of love can set you free, and only love can break your heart.