So days ago I told my mom that I’m gonna be married in my 30s, she’s like, WHAAAT?! And told me the disadvantages of being married after 20s and I was like, pffft…
Well, I always think marriage is a usual thing happens to people. But weirdly, once you become 20, it becomes some kind of pressure by the society and several parents. well, at least in my society and parents. My question is; what is the right reason for someone to get married? Is it for the sake of your parent’s demand, society pressure or your own will to do it? What it takes for someone to be sure that she/he found the one person to live with, bear monsters and die eventually? How those avoid boredom of each other?
Young Queen Victoria thought marriage should be a treat to a girl. My sister once said that being married to someone is not only so you can bear children but also to find a friend for life. I recall my lecturer said love ends when marriage begins. Well, does a successful marriage always begin with love?
I heard so many definitions about it in songs, movies, poems and somehow those make the word ‘love’ sounds overrated. Either it’s too cliché or too miserable, only a few make sense to me. Sometimes I thought love nowadays is just a product you sell on Valentine day. You have to agree that most of bestselling novels, songs, movies etc are related to love. *What? Yes, I like love songs and romantic novels, they help me dramatize my life.* Love produces money. Plus, I often find people said they love this and that then get too excited about it, but months later they just doing the same pattern I easily read.
The love I know, maybe, is a feeling that keeps you coming back. It stays. It grows bigger as the time goes. Like I love my family. You may say that you love your parents the moment you were born but I need a process to love them this much *hug the universe*. A long process that now leaves me at the point that no matter how much I loathe them, I end up want to make them happy.
Ugh. Words often make everything more dangkal. Well, people can have their own definition about love. Whatever.
You know one of the reasons I hate become an adult is there are so many things to think about. Life suddenly is not as easy as choosing what kind of candy I want to eat today.
So my conclusion is, blah, I’ don’t know, I’M TOO YOUNG TO THINK ABOUT THIS. These just several things crossed my mind and thought I should write it. Enjoy the crap. Bye.
Kalo kata Ully Artha, “age is just the matter of number”. Dan IMO “Marriage is the matter of finding determination”.
Yeah, a contradiction to society thoughts.
Budaya menikah muda. Untuk apa menikah muda tapi sengsara. Nyahaha~
Buahahaha. Tau deh yang jomblo dan berdompet tebal.
For some people, marriage is just to get laid whenever they get hard
For some people, marriage is just to legalize their sexual activity
For some people, marriage is just to follow the rule or standard of society/religion
For some people, marriage is just to stop people around asking ‘kapan nikah?’
For some people, marriage is just to prove that they’re not gay
For some people, marriage is just to save their family economy
For some people, marriage is just to have children
For some people, marriage is just to do because have been miss-organized genitals
For me, marriage is something i should do when i don’t know what to do anymore in this single life.
Everything is fine.